SHeBoNg MaRia ISaBeL MaYBeLLe MaRiBeL MaBeL ^__^ If You Can’t Handle Me at My WoRsT then You Don’t Deserve Me at My BeSt ^__^
“I must learn to love the fool in me the one who feels too much, talks too much, takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries.”
The greatest goal you can set this year is to make peace with your life, no matter your circumstances. These 10 powerful insights from Eckhart Tolle will get you started.
1. Don’t seek happiness. If you seek it, you won’t find it, because seeking is the antithesis of happiness. Happiness is ever elusive, but freedom from unhappiness is attainable now, by facing what is rather than making up stories about it.
2. The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it. Be aware of the thoughts you are thinking. Separate them from the situation, which is always neutral, which always is as it is. There is the situation or the fact, and here are my thoughts about it. Instead of making up stories, stay with the facts. For example, “I am ruined” is a story. It limits you and prevents you from taking effective action. “I have 50 cents left in my bank account” is a fact. Facing facts is always empowering.
3. See if you can catch the voice in your head, perhaps in the very moment it complains about something, and recognize it for what it is: the voice of the ego, no more than a thought. Whenever you notice that voice, you will also realize that you are not the voice, but the one who is aware of it. In fact, you are the awareness that is aware of the voice. In the background, there is the awareness. In the foreground, there is the voice, the thinker. In this way you are becoming free of the ego, free of the unobserved mind.
4. Wherever you look, there is plenty of circumstantial evidence for the reality of time—a rotting apple, your face in the bathroom mirror compared with your face in a photo taken 30 years ago—yet you never find any direct evidence, you never experience time itself. You only ever experience the present moment.
5. Why do anxiety, stress, or negativity arise? Because you turned away from the present moment. And why did you do that? You thought something else was more important. One small error, one misperception, creates a world of suffering.
6. People believe themselves to be dependent on what happens for their happiness. They don’t realize that what happens is the most unstable thing in the universe. It changes constantly. They look upon the present moment as either marred by something that has happened and shouldn’t have or as deficient because of something that has not happened but should have. And so they miss the deeper perfection that is inherent in life itself, a perfection that lies beyond what is happening or not happening. Accept the present moment and find the perfection that is untouched by time.
7. The more shared past there is in a relationship, the more present you need to be; otherwise, you will be forced to relive the past again and again.
8. Equating the physical body with “I,” the body that is destined to grow old, wither, and die, always leads to suffering. To refrain from identifying with the body doesn’t mean that you no longer care for it. If it is strong, beautiful, or vigorous, you can appreciate those attributes—while they last. You can also improve the body’s condition through nutrition and exercise. If you don’t equate the body with who you are, when beauty fades, vigor diminishes, or the body becomes incapacitated, this will not affect your sense of worth or identity in any way. In fact, as the body begins to weaken, the light of consciousness can shine more easily.
9. You do not become good by trying to be good, but by finding the goodness that is already within you and allowing that goodness to emerge.
10. If peace is really what you want, then you will choose peace.
JUST FOR TODAY, I will live through this day only. I will not brood about yesterday or obsess about tomorrow. I will not set far-reaching goals or try to overcome all of my problems at once. I know that I can do something for 24 hours that would overwhelm me if I had to keep it up for a lifetime.
JUST FOR TODAY, I will be happy. I will not dwell on thoughts that depress me. If my mind fills with clouds, I will chase them away and fill it with sunshine.
JUST FOR TODAY, I will accept what is. I will face reality. I will correct those things that I can correct and accept those I cannot.
JUST FOR TODAY, I will improve my mind. I will read something that requires effort, thought and concentration. I will not be a mental loafer.
JUST FOR TODAY, I will make a conscious effort to be agreeable. I will be kind and courteous to those who cross my path, and I’ll not speak ill of others. I’ll improve my appearance, speak softly, and not interrupt when someone else is talking. Just for today, I’ll refrain from improving anybody but myself.
JUST FOR TODAY, I will do something positive to improve my health. If I’m a smoker, I’ll quit. If I’m overweight, I’ll eat healthily — if only just for today. And not only that, I’ll get off the couch and take a brisk walk, even if it’s only around the block.
JUST FOR TODAY, I will gather the courage to do what is right and take responsibility for my own actions.
A son is a warm spot in your heart
and a smile on your lips.
In the beginning, he is charmingly
innocent, putting his complete trust
in you.
He comes to you for a hand to hold
and for the security only your arms
can provide.
He shares his tales of adventure and knows
how proud you are of his
discoveries and accomplishments.
All his problems can be solved by a
hug and a kiss from you, and the
bond, you share is so strong it is
almost tangible…..
Time passes, and your innocent little boy
starts to test his limits. He lets go of your
hand to race into the midst of life without
thinking ahead or looking both ways.
His problems have grown along with him,
and he has learned that you can’t always
make his life better or kiss his troubles away.
He spends much of his time away from you,
and though you long for the closeness you
once shared, he chooses independence and
privacy.
Discoveries and accomplishments aren’t as
easy to come by now, and sometimes
he wonders about his worth.
But you know the worth of that young man.
He is your past and your future. He is hopes
and dreams that have made it through each
and every disappointment and failure.
In your heart, your son is precious and
treasured. Together, you struggles through
the years trying to find the right amount of
independence for each new stage of his life,
until finally, you had to learn to let him go.
Now you put your trust in him, leaving that
son whom you hold so dear totally in his own
care. You hope he always remembers that you
have a hand for him to hold and arms to
provide comfort or support.
Most of all, you hope that he believes in
himself as much as you believe in him, and
that he knows how much you love him.
when you find a person you thought was for some,
with the same interest, respect, and heart
you share so much, but you live apart.
For some time you think they dont exist,
or you think you’ve found’em but its just a bliss,
Then you realize that there’s one for you,
that all your life you will not live blue,
then this person appears from nowhere,
your soul mate, your love, can this be true?
You have found that person that is Mr. you.
the best lola in the world
A grandmother’s job never ends. Many grandmothers in our society step in to raise children when their mother is unavailable. Even in the best of situations, having a grandmother to help with child raising and to provide a softer touch is often a welcome intrusion. The other side of the issue is that grandmothers have to realize when it is time to step back and keep their mouths shut. If there is a healthy father and mother, they are the ones with the final say in how to raise their children.
MY LOLA
Her smile can light up a room, her presence is of grace
Her opinions are heard without one word but by the look upon her face
Her touch is so gentle, her heart as big as the moon
Her spirit is kindhearted and warm as a summer’s afternoon
Her hair a river of gray, her eyes radiant as the sun
Her time she’ll take no matter how long until the work is done
Her kisses are so soft, her hugs preferred from the rest
My lola is mine forever and ever and she’ll always be the best.
Each time that someone inflicts physical or emotional pain upon us there is usually a natural reaction to attack back. While this can give some much needed satisfaction, it is not an open and shut case.
There are different kinds of hurt - harsh or mild, intentional or accidental, apparently justified or not. Sometimes the perpetrator is emotionally ill or extremely stressed and unaware of the seriousness of the incident, perhaps feeling very much worse than you do. Imagine that the positions are switched for a different perspective on the situation.
“It’s hard to have one’s watch stolen, but one reflects that the thief of the watch became a thief from causes of heredity and environment which are as interesting as they are scientifically comprehensible; and one buys another watch, if not with joy, at any rate with a philosophy that makes bitterness impossible.” - Arnold Bennett (1867-1931)
It is worth considering the aftermath of revenge. How do you feel now, better or worse? How does the other person feel? Was your reaction too strong or harmful? Perhaps you feel bad and regret it altogether? Could a little discussion have avoided the incident?
“To be wronged or robbed is nothing unless you continue to remember it.” - Confucius (BC)
It may seem very stupid to turn the other cheek when we have been hurt, and often it is. However, we should review the situation and consider the facts and effects. Who is being harmed by our anger and retaliation? If we cause ourselves more grief when we try to get even, isn’t this another reason to at least review our actions?
“He who seeks revenge should remember to dig two graves.” - Chinese proverb
In so many ways you’ve touched me
In so many ways I can name
You’ve made my entire life different
Without you my days aren’t the same
Your true love is so radiant
Your understanding of me is so clear
And whenever I am far from you
I know in my heart you are near.
Words could never express
All my emotions inside
To thank you for all the times
I ever laughed or cried.
Because good times you’ve always made better
And bad times you’ve always made good
If there was anything I could not do
I only ask once and you would.
You know my thoughts before they’re said
You even know them before they are thought
You know me as I know myself
Your the love every person has sought.
While many spend their lifetime in futile search
Of a love no truer than you
Most never find what they are looking for
But thank God for me thats not true.
God has sent an angel in you I know
Because I know of no one more pure
And with the three of us together as friends
There’s not a thing the Lord, you, and I can’t endure
The bond that is between us my love
A million miles never would part
My lips do not tell you these words, not at all
For they come from within my heart.
I loved you then and I still love you now. :-*
Family friendly, clean, feel good jokes about kids, families and the happy funny side of life. Just my very favorite laughs.
Q: Name the four seasons.
A: Salt, pepper, mustard and vinegar.
Q: Explain one of the processes by which water can be made safe to drink.
A: Flirtation makes water safe to drink because it removes large pollutants like grit, sand, dead sheep and canoeists.
Q: How can you delay milk turning sour?
A: Keep it in the cow.
Q: Name a major disease associated with cigarettes.
A: Premature death.
Q: How are the main parts of the body categorized? (e.g., abdomen.)
A: The body is consisted into three parts - the brainium, the borax and the abdominal cavity. The brainium contains the brain; the borax contains the heart and lungs, and the abdominal cavity contains the five bowels, A, E, I, O, and U.
Q: Give the meaning of the term “Caesarean Section”
A: The Caesarean Section is a district in Rome.
Q: What does the word “benign” mean?’
A: Benign is what you will be after you are eight.
Things You Don’t Want to Hear During Surgery
Bo! Bo! Come back with that! Bad Dog!
Wait a minute, if this is his spleen, then what’s that?
Hand me that . . thingie.
What’s this doing here?
Well this will be an experiment for all of us.
This is truly a freak of nature.
What do you mean, “You want a divorce”!
Kids’ Proverbs
A first grade teacher collected old, well known proverbs. She gave each kid in her class the first half of a proverb, and had them come up with the rest.
As you shall make your bed so shall you… mess it up.
Strike while the… bug is close.
It’s always darkest before… daylight savings time.
Never underestimate the power of… termites.
Don’t bite the hand that… looks dirty.
No news is… impossible
You can’t teach an old dog new… math.
If you lie down with the dogs, you’ll… stink in the morning.
Love all, trust… me.
An idle mind is… the best way to relax.
Where there’s smoke, there’s… pollution.
Happy the bride who… gets all the presents!
A penny saved is… not much.
Laugh and the whole world laughs with you, cry and… you have to blow your nose.
Children should be seen and not… spanked or grounded.
If at first you don’t succeed… get new batteries.
You get out of something what you… see pictured on the box.
There is no fool like… Aunt Eddie.
Health
Never go to a doctor whose office plants have died. - Erma Bombeck
Investing
“Don’t gamble; take all your savings and buy some good stock and hold it till it goes up, then sell it. If it don’t go up, don’t buy it.” - Will Rogers
Honesty is the Best Policy
Marge, it takes two to lie. One to lie, and one to listen. - Homer Simpson
Kids Praying
“Lead us not into temptation, but deliver us some e-mail, Amen.”
Dear GOD, thank you for the baby brother, but what I prayed for was a puppy.
“Give us this day our deli bread!
Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Whole East Coast.”
“Our Father, Who does art in heaven, Harold is His name.”
“Thou shall not take the covers off the neighbor’s wife.”
Dear GOD, instead of letting people die and having to make new ones, why don’t You just keep the ones You have now?
Commuting
Is everyone going slower than you an idiot and anyone going faster a maniac? Relax!
The Law
These are from a book called Disorder in the Court, and are the things people actually said in court, taken down and now published by court reporters.
Q: What gear were you in at the moment of impact?
A: Gucci sweats and Reeboks.
Q: Is your appearance here this morning pursuant to a deposition notice which I sent to your attorney?
A: No, this is how I dress when I go to work.
Q: Doctor, how many autopsies have you performed on dead people?
A: All my autopsies are performed on dead people.
Accused, Defending His Own Case:
Did you get a good look at my face when I took your purse?
Food
Archie Bunker, when he refused to eat tongue for dinner. “I would never eat anything that came out of an animal’s mouth. Edith, boil me a couple of eggs!”
- All in the Family
Goofy
Last night I lay in bed looking up at the stars in the sky and I thought to myself, “Where is the ceiling?”
I loathe people who keep dogs. They are cowards who haven’t got the guts to bite people themselves.
Kid Talk
Two kids were looking at bathroom scales. “What’s it for?” one asked. “I think you stand on it and it makes you mad.”
0h Susanna, 0h don’t you cry for me, For I come from Alabama with a band-aid on my knee!
“What’s your name little boy?” “Connor.” “Your full name?” “Conner stop that”
A wife invited some people to dinner. At the table, she turned to their six year old daughter and said, “Would you like to say the blessing?” “I wouldn’t know what to say,” the girl replied. “Just say what you hear Mommy say,” the wife answered. The daughter bowed her head and said, “Lord, why on earth did I invite these people to dinner?”
My son Tommy got very angry when he was 3 years old and I offered him a grilled cheese sandwich. He yelled ‘I don’t want a girl cheese sandwich, mommy, I’m a boy!! I need a boy cheese sandwich!’ - submitted by Lee Lachance
Attitude
Don’t be too disappointed. - If people don’t want to come out to the ball park, nobody’s going to stop them. - Yogi Berra
What is?
What is yellow, weighs 800 pounds, and has 4 legs?
Two 400 pound canaries!
For us seniors only!
Not Kids Anymore, when . . .
You and your teeth don’t sleep together.
You wake up looking like your driver’s license picture.
Your idea of a night out is sitting on the patio.
Happy hour is a nap.
Your address book has mostly names that start with Dr.
You sit in a rocking chair and can’t get it going.
Getting “lucky” means you found your car in the parking lot.
You look for your glasses for half an hour and they were on your head.
You sink your teeth into a steak - and they stay there.
You give up all your bad habits and still don’t feel good.
You finally get your head together and your body starts falling apart.
More . . .
I’ve sure gotten old! I’ve had two bypass surgeries, a hip replacement, new knees. I’ve fought prostate cancer and diabetes. I’m half blind, can’t hear anything quieter than a jet engine, take 40 different medications that make me dizzy, winded, and subject to blackouts. Have bouts with dementia. Have poor circulation; hardly feel my hands and feet anymore. Can’t remember if I’m 85 or 92. Have lost all my friends. But, thank God, I still have my driver’s license.
I feel like my body has gotten totally out of shape, so I got my doctor’s permission to join a fitness club and start exercising. I decided to take an aerobics class for seniors. I bent, twisted, gyrated, jumped up and down, and perspired for an hour. But, by the time I got my leotards on, the class was over.
My memory’s not as sharp as it used to be. Also, my memory’s not as sharp as it used to be.
It’s scary when you start making the same noises as your coffeemaker.
THE SENILITY PRAYER : Grant me the senility to forget the people I never liked anyway, the good fortune to run into the ones I do, and the eyesight to tell the difference.
Remember: You don’t stop laughing because you grow old, You grow old because you stop laughing.
The squirrel with a positive attitude
This is cute, not funny, but uplifting and a good example of Helen Keller type attitude. One day I watched a bushy tailed squirrel from my fourth story White Rock condo. It scooted and hopped along the telephone cable from pole to pole to pole. A few days later I caught it in action again. Then a few weeks went by and no squirrel. Had some misfortune come to the little one?
Then it appeared and busily worked it’s way along the cable, thirty feet off the ground. It’s energy and determination had not changed, but it’s appearance had. It had no tail!
For all of you with teenagers, or who had teenagers, you may want to know why they really have a lot in common with cats:
Neither teenagers nor cats turn their heads when you call them by name.
No matter what you do for them, it is not enough. Indeed, all humane efforts are barely adequate to compensate for the privilege of waiting on them hand and foot.
You rarely see a cat walking outside of the house with an adult human being, and it can be safely said that no teenager in his or her right mind wants to be seen in public with his or her parents.
Even if you tell jokes as well as Jay Leno, neither your cat nor your teen will ever crack a smile.
No cat or teenager shares your taste in music.
Cats and teenagers can lie on the living-room sofa for hours on end without moving, barely breathing.
Cats have nine lives. Teenagers carry on as if they did.
Cats and teenagers yawn in exactly the same manner, communicating that ultimate human ecstasy — a sense of complete and utter boredom.
Cats and teenagers do not improve anyone’s furniture.
Cats that are free to roam outside sometimes have been known to return in the middle of the night to deposit a dead animal in your bedroom. Teenagers are not above that sort of behavior.
Thus, if you must raise teenagers, the best sources of advice are not other parents, but veterinarians. It is also a good idea to keep a guidebook on cats at hand at all times.
And remember, above all else, put out the food and do not make any sudden moves in their direction. When they make up their minds, they will finally come to you for some affection and comfort, and it will be a triumphant moment for all concerned.
"The heart of a mother is a deep abyss at the bottom of which you will always find forgiveness."
just want to share with you this amazing, inspiring & touching song…’hanggang’ composed by roni & gigi cordero
Ilang ulit mo bang, itinatanong sakin
kung hanggang saan,hanggang saan, hanggang kailan,
hanggang kailan mag tatagal,
ang aking pag mamahal,
hanggang may himig pa akong naririnig,
dito sa aking daig-dig
hanggang may musika akong tinataglay,
ika’y iniibig
giliw wag mo sanang isiping
ikaw ay aking lilisanin,
di ko magagawang
lumayo sayong piling
at nais kong malaman mo
kung gaano kita kamahal
hanggang ang diwa ko’y
tanging sayo laan
mamahalin kailanman
hanggang pag ibig ko’y
hanggang walang hanggan
tanging ikaw lamang
hanggang may himig pa akong naririnig
dito sa aking daig-dig
hanggang may musika akong tinataglay
ika’y iniibig
giliw wag mo sanang isiping
ikaw ay aking lilisanin
di ko magagawang
lumayo sayong piling
at nais kong malaman mo
kung gaano kita kamahal
hanggang may puso akong
marunong mag mahal
na ang sinisigaw ay lagi ng ikaw
hanggang saan hanggang kailan
hanggang kailan kita mahal
hanggang ang buhay ko’y
kunin ng may kapal
giliw wag mo sanang isipin
ikaw ay aking lilisanin
di ko magagawang
lumayo sayong piling
hanggang may pag ibig
laging isisigaw, tanging ikaw
hanggang may pag ibig
laging isisigaw, tanging ikaw
